Except for expert medical treatment, nothing can help us recover from a variety of medical and social problems like emotional and moral support.
Support groups often substitute for family or close friends. The results can be amazing. I’ve witnessed patients who joined such groups as Reach for Recovery (for breast-cancer patients) and the Stroke Club who’ve made remarkable recoveries. Buoyed by the support they received, they were able to move ahead with their lives and accept their misfortune.
Most people are familiar with the reputation of Alcoholics Anonymous; there are similar groups to help people with drug and gambling addictions, weight problems and struggles to accept their fate, perhaps as a result of cancer or an accident.
Probably the largest and most powerful support group is the American Association of Retired People, whose concern is for the senior citizens of America. Indeed, there are support groups for virtually every problem, but the onus is on you to find the one you need.
Support groups do not always seek out “clients,” believing an individual’s desire to belong must motivate the search for the appropriate group. But many advertise in the phone book; your local hospital, health agencies, coworkers and ministers are also excellent sources for referrals.
Support groups ask you to make a commitment to attend meetings and to develop a positive relationship with the group members. Sometimes, family members are asked to participate also, but the fact that you have made the move to seek help is the primary consideration.
Most people hesitate to share their troubles with “strangers.” With the realization that everyone in the group has a similar problem and can offer help, sympathy and advice, most take a massive step toward resolving their personal conflict.
Several support groups have families in mind; for instance, Alateen is for the teenage children of alcoholics. There are support groups for families of patients with Alzheimer’s disease. The Hospice movement offers comfort and aid when there is no hope for recovery.
I’m a good example of the influence of group support. After joining a group, I lost 40 pounds. I looked better and felt healthier, but then I made a classic error. I decided I didn’t need the group any more. What a mistake! Within months, I’d gained back all the weight I’d struggled to lose.
If you suspect that a support group could help you through a crisis, join one. Let’s face it, folks! Everybody needs somebody. Why should you be so different?
Dr. Michael M. Warren is Ashbel Smith professor of surgery at University of Texas Medical Branch Division of Urology.
